I have not posted in over a month. I am in the middle of a huge transition in my life. I turned fifty-seven at the end of May and my eighty-one year-old mother relocated from West Palm Beach after thirty-four years to move in with me for the summer until she decides on what her next move will be. I’m an only child without any kids. I have severe OCD, am a neat freak and a germaphobe and am very much set in my ways. Mother is cut from a similar mold so this is a very interesting social experiment. It will be two weeks on Wednesday that she has arrived and in fourteen days I have experienced memories that will last forever.
Mom doesn’t know ANYTHING about Willoughby, Ohio. She might as well have relocated to Yemen. I only ride Harleys so Mom has to drive her car while I navigate. Don’t assume that an eighty-one year old will slow down at a railroad crossing. I found out the hard way. Think back to the opening of “Dukes of Hazzard.” That was me in a car Mom was driving less than a half a mile from my house. My lower lip is still bleeding from the landing. If there was a video game where the goal was to drive into every chuckhole on the street then Mother would be a World Champion. I won’t even share with you the fear I experience when she is wandering through a parking lot looking for that “perfect” space.” When it takes five minutes to get to the store it should not take you TEN minutes to park the car. This is all new to me as I have been away from Mother for three years. Time changes. People change. We all must prepare to adapt.
Mom has always been there for me. I have been the focus of her life. I traveled the country doing morning radio while she relocated to West Palm Beach in 1987 in a company move. She left everything behind. I started having health issues in 2011. I had a heart block. I flat-lined in the ER for75 seconds. I was in a coma for six days. Mother was there when I woke up. I had a pacemaker installed. I’ve had a heart Catherization. I’ve been in AFib. I’ve had an ablation. I overcame addiction. I am NOT the victim. A lot of this could have been prevented but we can only control the present. We have the ability to change. We don’t have to repeat our mistakes. I am at a very interesting point in my life. My purpose is to be there for Mother like she has always been there for me. This is HER time. What can I do to make it easier for her? She HAS to feel out of her element. She abandoned everything she knew for thirty-four years. She has to develop a new routine. It can’t be easy.
Here is the lesson I have learned; Money, stature, your job, success and possessions mean NOTHING. They do NOT define who you are. When it is our time to go to the next level no one will be saying “I wish I worked more!!” There is NO loyalty in business. It’s best to be your own boss. I pray for patience and understanding. It’s a day by day process with Mother. I have learned so much in the past two weeks about her and about myself. It’s gonna be an interesting summer. Wish me luck. I know I am gonna need it.
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I always knew I was different. When I was a teenager I was afraid to go to the counter at McDonalds and place an order for fear I would get it wrong or they would laugh at me. Humor became the perfect mask. If I could make people laugh they would not see my faults. I fell in love with radio. That “mystery man” behind the mic that would talk to me, I wanted, and got, that life. Although I was very successful I was running from an illness and eventually I crashed in February of 2011.
I have OCD, am bi-polar, suffer from depression and severe social anxiety disorder. I have been in therapy for nine years and my doctor saved my life. Depression is not just “being in a bad mood.” It’s a feeling of all other options running out and desperation. It makes suicide seem logical (as illogical as that may seem). So how did I do my job, be successful at it, and hide it from everyone? It started with alcohol. It gave me the courage to walk in a room, size people up, and own it. At an event I would continue to drink to feed the monster that wanted to come out. When that wasn’t enough I turned to drugs. Self medicating was the way I solved my problems before I found help. I was never a druggie in high school or college or in my early adult life but I can honestly say I became an addict. I have learned that addiction is a terrible disease and through the help of my therapist he has taught me how to control it and not let it control me.
I also found out that it’s okay to be scared. I don’t have all the answers to the tribulations we face in life but in 2015 I was in a coma for six days because I almost let that monster inside of me win. That was rock bottom for me. For the past seven years I have concentrated on fixing myself. For some reason God has let me survive to fulfill a specific mission that I have yet to discover. I have been blessed to actually see what awaits us. That first night in my coma the doctors were sure I would not see the morning. I truly am someone that got a second chance and that, among other reasons, is why I have decided to go home to Cleveland. It is my sincere hope that others that may have these feelings know they are not alone. My mom says I tell everyone everything and have no filter. She is correct but no one can appreciate the success without tasting the failure. Every new day is a blessing and there is no guarantee. Thank you for reading this and remember “never give up.”
What has happened to the “T” word? It used to be prevalent but now it’s virtually non-existent. In case you are not aware of the word I am referring to it’s “thank you.” The “T” word is very powerful and for some reason it seems as though we are afraid to use it. The same can be said for “please” and “you’re welcome.”
I was seeing my heart surgeon yesterday and it affected me both physically but more so mentality. I had a heart block back in September of 2015 that left me in a coma for six days and the intensive care unit for three weeks. The first couple of days were very precarious as they could not be sure that I would survive. In retrospect I needed to crash. This was a gift. It was a spiritual awakening.
Doctors always move fast. They appear to be in a hurry because they ARE in a hurry. Many people need their attention so their furious pace is quite understandable. As my doctor sat down with me and asked how I was doing I think he expected my response to be “fine” or “pretty good.” Instead I replied “When someone holds the door open for us we usually respond with a half-hearted ‘thank you.’ You have given me a second chance in life. I don’t feel that saying ‘thank you’ truly illustrates my appreciation for what you did. I am a different person and I promise I won’t let you down.”
A strange thing happened. He slowed down, stopped for a second, and replied “You don’t have to thank me as it was my duty to give you the best medical care but do know that you have just made my day.” Wow. This is a brilliant man who has saved many lives and just my words of appreciation were enough to make a difference in his day. We need to return to a society that cares about each other. We don’t have to agree with one another but we need to be tolerant and respectful of one another. After my visit with the doctor I had to go to a lab for some blood work. The kind woman who was to draw my blood noticed I was carrying the book “America the Beautiful” by Dr. Ben Carson. We then discussed how she and her husband enjoy reading and how she made sure to pass that indulgence down to her children and grandchildren. The point here is simple. If we take the time to be kind to one another then it gives us an opportunity to take the word “strange” out of stranger.
This is a fast paced society but the irony is that our time here on earth is actually very short. I try to make a difference or learn something new every day. Imagine what a different world we would live in if everyone made this their mission statement. Enjoy your day, hug those you love and “THANK YOU” for reading this.
Danny tears into an article in Cosmo that explains why it’s good for your man to watch porn. Donald Trump offends again and we are there to make fun of it. Global warming can be blamed upon the lack of “wandering poopers.” That’s just some of the nonsense in this edition of DANNYLAND! Click below to listen.