Like a baby that doesn’t know the meaning of “hot” until they burn their hand on a stove, one doesn’t truly appreciate the meaning and value of the word “trust” until you have been misled, burned, lied to or a combination of all three. Luckily I have suffered through a numerous number of these episodes so that I can speak with confidence about how valuable and rare trust actually is.
Trust is earned. It’s not something like a coupon for a five dollar pitcher of beer some local pub hands out to fans leaving a sporting event. Think about your first day on the job. Your employer will never be nicer to you than on that first day. Three months later your supervisor is yelling at you in their office because they lost the “McPherson Project.”
Trust comes with time. Think about the friends you had in your twenties and the friends you have today. If one or more has survived then it’s probably because you trust them. I have a close bunch of friends today and a lot of them are my family and they are few in number because the others violated my trust. I was lied to, screwed over, used, taken advantage of…..you name it and I can name someone that did it to me. I’m not the victim. I was actually blessed to realize I don’t want or need these people in my life.
Trust actually defines the soul of the person. I will be honest. In my twenties I only cared about myself. I would never extend my trust to a person like that. Luckily we have time to learn and change. It is during this time I think you develop your character. Every day is an opportunity for you to grow. Time doesn’t slow down when you get older….it actually seems to accelerate. Take a moment today to do a self reflection on yourself. Should YOU be trusted?? If not….you still have time to make that change.
I STOPPED MY PODCAST JUNE 21, 2020. THIS IS TEMPORARY AND I WILL EXPLAIN IN GREAT DETAIL AS SOON AS IT IS SAFE TO RESUME.